* Who Would Notice If You Were Not Okay?

We can’t wait to explore this with you. You can message all day and still not feel known. You can have hundreds of connections and nowhere to put the parts of yourself that need somewhere to go. Something is missing. What? Depth. Telling people to “get out there and make more friends” misses the point. Maybe the first question isn’t: Where should I go, who should I get to know? Maybe it is: Can I get to know myself? and what do I actually need in terms of relationships, beyond human connection?
Do you need to be listened to without being fixed? To laugh until your stomach hurts? To be challenged? To be held? Most of us have never really asked this question. So we either don’t reach for connection, because nothing seems to satisfy us or give meaning, or even isolate ourselves more and more. Or we reach out without knowing what we are reaching for… and then we wonder why we still feel alone.

Exploring a little piece of you at a time will get you far. You can become clear on what matters to you, and recognise what is real and what nourishes you on a deeper level. You must do yourself this justice and truly explore yourself as deep and honest as you can.
Because you can’t build… at least not deeper relationship with someone else until you begin to understand what depth means to you. We believe intimacy starts from within, earlier than with  external relationships. It start with befriending YOURSELF. Get to know yourself. What makes you feel intimate with another person? What makes you disappear? What do you keep accepting that leaves you empty? What do you actually need? These are not small questions. They change who you choose and what you ask for. What you give and what you stop settling for. And this is the part most people misses these days.

So to answer the question: Instead of escaping yourself  YOU would notice if you were not okay. Sit with it, then meet the real world from a depth that changes every interaction to unique and unforgettable moments. Go deeper. That’s all we have to say.

What makes Jay Shetty’s perspective interesting is the invitation to consider how too much inward focus can, paradoxically, take us further from happiness, and to find a healthier balance between looking within and looking beyond ourselves. Listen to “The Surprising Reason You’re Still Unhappy” by Jay Shetty, featured in Voices Worth Hearing.