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* Why do we sometimes want what makes us feel unsafe?

Sit down with us here, and let's talk about desire. Desire can pull us toward a person, a feeling, an experience, a substance or a behaviour, even when another part of us knows there may be a cost. Why? It is definitely trying to tell you something here. Sometimes we mistake intensity for intimacy. Anxiety for excitement. Being wanted for being valued. The relief of finally getting someone's attention for the feeling of being loved. Our brains are surprisingly creative when it comes to convincing us that what we want is what we need. But intensity is not only found...

* Does healing mean getting over it, or learning to carry it differently?

Sit down with us here, and let's talk about healing. Real healing is rarely simple. Some things change you, f-o-r-e-v-e-r. A loss that broke you inside, a betrayal, childhood experience you still carry with you or the version of yourself you had to become to survive something difficult. You can move on with your life and still carry what happened with you. Healing does not always mean that something stops hurting. Sometimes it means it stops controlling you. You may still remember what happened. You may still feel sadness, anger, grief, or even love. But perhaps you no longer organise...

* Can solitude be something I choose rather than something that happens to me?

Come, sit with us for a moment. Let's talk about loneliness. There is a particular kind of exhaustion that comes from constantly looking outside of ourselves — for answers, for reassurance, for distraction, for people, for something that will make us feel less uncertain or less alone. We live in a world that rarely asks us to be still. There is always something to watch, someone to talk to, somewhere to go, something to achieve. We are constantly told that connection is essential to our wellbeing. Talk to people. Build your community. Reach out. Don’t isolate yourself. Make sure you...